Steps to recovery after a Heart Break

      The searing pain of a failed relationship is the greatest suffering many of us will ever experience, emotional pain are worse than physical pain, this makes it hard to fight it. it just eats you up inside like a virus, this is why many people cant seem to get over their pain not cause they dont want to but cause they dont knw how to. On this article, we will be looking at steps you can use to overcome heart break, its difficult but nothing is impossible, this steps will help you feel better and come to accept reality as it is.

-First, recognize that you wont feel this pain forever, this means that no matter how heart broken you are or how much your heart bleeds, time will surely heal all wounds, with time, you will feel better again. never forget that.
-Learn to forgive what ever wrong this break up might have caused you, this is not the time to pass judgement and look for who is to blame for the failed relationship, if you keep doing this, you will never be able to stop hurting as new chapters of the pain will keep opening up, this is why you should learn to forgive as forgiveness will take you to the step of recovery.
-Learn to accept that the relationship, no matter how long it lasted or how romantic and sweet it was is finally over, learn to accept it. one mistake people still make that keeps hurting them is the fact that they dont wanna accept that a relationship which lasted almost a life time can finally come to an end just like that, they keep trying to understand why it all happened and find it impossible that it has finally come to an end, keeping up like this will do you no good, it will only hurt you more. learn to see the writing on the wall, learn to let go, its painful to accept but if you wanna ever feel better again, you just have to accept its over and open a new chapter in your life.
-Stop all old habits as this can make you hurt more, what ever you use to do in the past that always remind you of your partner should be stopped immediately, it could be listening to a particular music that reminds you of him/her, learn to listen and download new music that makes you think of something else, never try to listen to slow songs or songs that brings emotion or talks about love as this will not help you, it will only open up the wounds deeper and most times, makes you remember how you are hurting and this can make you cry for those who are not emotionally strong and try to also avoid any form of contact or communication with your former partner.
-Learn to accept the fact that your former partner has changed and has moved on, you might find it difficult to believe but i tell you, if he breaks up with you, he has moved on right from the very minute he told you it was over, he has rehearsed that scene a thousand time in his mind and has figured out a way to let you go, so why still hold on to them? stop thinking that your former partner will wake up one day and  change his/her mind in the hope of coming back to you, and because of this, you refuse to move on saying to yourself, "he will realise his mistake and come back"". what if he is beyond coming back? what do you do then? if you continue like this years will pass you by and you will find your self ageing and yet they arent back in your arms yet, you might even be surprised to hear they are married... pls stop hurting yourself, if the relationship is meant to be then it will be, but dont tie your self down cause you are still waiting for a change of mind.. MOVE ON!
-Devote more time to yourself, try to always make yourself happy, do things that will benefit you, take yourself out to treat, you can invite couple of friends, hang out with friends more often as this will help distract you from those thoughts of your partner still hiding somewhere in your head... bottomline, just make yourself happy and dont for one second think of them or the pain the break up might have caused you as this could ruin your outing and open old wounds.
-Give up trying to get acknowledgement or apology cause you feel they owe it to you or you deserve it, this is one mistake we make when hurting, you feel that cause he/she broke up with you then you will not move on until they realise how much they hurt you and now you are seeking an apology from them, seriously? thats a total waste of time, cause you will never get it from them and even if you do, it wouldnt change anything or make you feel any better.. you dont need an apology to move on only except you dont want to move on, what if it takes years for them to realise they hurt you, are you gonna stop the hand of the clock and wait for that day to come? honestly, years will pass you by and you might still not get that apology.. you can move on, apology or not but first you must be determined to. so pls, forget about the apology, it wont make you feel any better neither will it change anything, you cant always get closure, you ve got to learn when to let go.
- Realize that theres always a reason and a purpose for what ever happens to you in life, learn to see that there is a purpose for the pain you are going through right now, always know that with every scar, theres a lesson, and that lesson u must learn from, life is a teacher, it teaches you things that it has to offer, pain, hurt, whatever it is, you must learn from it. the pain you are going through right now is an experience you must learn from and never forget, nothing happens by chance or mistake, everything that happens to you today has got a purpose, learn to make the better of it and learn from every mistake it has cost you and let the experience guide you..
-Turn your focus to the future and let the past remain the past, do not bring the past or its memories to your future, the future has got better and exciting things to offer you and to gain this, you must let your past go and learn to believe that you will surely find LOVE and HAPPINESS again.